Let me tell you something about myself. I have never stepped into a Single Momâs high heels, but that wasnât needed to understand why Motherâs Day is not the most spectacular of sights for a mother taking the road less taken.
If you are wondering why I referred to you as Your Highness, then let me remind youâyou are a Queen and thatâs what you say when you are talking to the Queen (read till the end to understand why).
Come to think of it, this occasion is all about celebrating mothers. They commemorate Motherâs Day by taking time off their busy schedules, sleeping in late and letting daddy do all the hard work.
But this isnât a luxury we single moms have, do we?
So we do what human beings do to counter their fearsâwe run away from them, pretending that they donât exist. As a result, it isnât a happy Motherâs Day to single mothers. Itâs something that single mommas dread.
While we are busy hiding behind the (rather invisible) single parent cloak on Motherâs Day, we often forget what Motherâs Day stands for in the first place. And itâs definitely not a stereotypical notion of a fully fledged family presenting gifts to the woman of the house.
Yes, there is a HUUUGE difference between a single momâs motherâs day celebration and others. But Motherhood is a sacred feeling that doesnât discriminate.
Iâve often heard of Motherhood being glorified to its fullest. Mother Nature, Angel Godmother and 2700 other flabbergasting references have the word âMotherâ in them, and why not!
Motherhood is pristineâa superpower that nurtures us savages into better beings while keeping the affection alive on this godforsaken planet.
You brought us into this world, fondled us with your tender heart and firm hands. None of us can compensate for the struggles you went through to make us who we are.
This is what Motherâs Day is all aboutâa celebration to call mommy âbest mother on the planetâ and giving them a day off from motherly duty for what they did.
Now think about it, isnât this distant to what actually happens to you on Motherâs Day? It is just like any other day. If you are lucky enough, you might get a card from your kid (which gets me every time).
Your little lovebirds might greet you with the tightest hug everâa hug tight enough to melt your heart. It doesnât really matter if you are celebrating Motherâs Day as a single mother or as a veteran of womankind, keep it in mind that this day is for you.
If youâve been wondering âwhatâs the point of wishing happy Motherâs Day to a single mother like me?â let me help you out.
Itâs not just for mothers with perfect families surrounding them, it isnât for tech companies to give 20% discounts to mothers, but it definitely is for you.
In fact, you are the ones who deserve a Motherâs Day off more than the most. You are the woman of the house and you are doing one helluva job. Managing kids, a house, a job and technically everything around you (let alone your personal self) is like walking through a blizzard.
You deserve everything that ever existsâwe are talking greeting cards, gifts, unlimited supply of pizzas, long sleepy times and a day off from literally everything on the freaking planet.
But we donât always get what we deserve, do we?
As a single mother, you know exactly what Iâm talking about. We all have dreams of things going perfectly but here we are. We made our fair share of mistakes as a clan member of the single momma community, but this shouldnât play a spoilsport on a Single Momâs Motherâs Day celebrations.
No, Iâm not going to list five ways to celebrate Motherâs Day as a single mother or tell you how you can accept what is clinically unfair, but I know how you are feeling at this very moment.
Also, Iâd like to tell you that you are not alone in this fight.
Itâs not just the kids, darlingâitâs the whole world around us. And each and every one of us considerate men, women and children hate to see you this way.
I canât do anything more than shed tears after looking into those eyes full of guilt on a very special day that is meant for somebody like you. Havenât you been through enough already?
You have a constant fear in your mindâone that says âwhat if my son turns out to be like his father?â Or what if your daughter just cocoons herself in a blanket of perception which says all men are bad (because letâs face itâsome of them arenât)?
Sure, you can surround yourself with all the people you want. Host a summer BBQ in the name of Single Mom Motherâs Day Carnival. But at the end of the day, you go back home and these ghastly dreams come back into contention.
But donât worry, there is nobody like you, and it isnât just your kids who say that. People around you adore you for who you are. For it takes a badass Mama to be a Father too.
You are living the superhero lifeâyou are the Wonder Woman to the Children to Amazon, Amelia Earhart to budding pilots and the world needs you to survive amongst these dreary vibes. This Motherâs Day, donât beat yourself up to itâyou are the best mother in the world.
Yep, this was a graduation yearbook quote for plenty of young women, but that doesnât prove it wrong. A Queen doesnât just sit on her throneâshe goes through eternal tests of torment, sacrifice, perseverance and what not to get there.
A true warrior doesnât flaunt her scarsâshe learns from them and moves ahead. Thatâs the way of life for a single mum like you.
But Motherâs day calls for a celebration and this is the day you deserve to celebrate. Go ahead and buy yourself some kick ass gifts, gather all of your single momma friends and just party it out (donât forget to get a good nanny though), do whatever the hell you wantâthis day calls for a revel.
And whatever might be the caseâdonât run away from Motherâs Day just because you are a single mother. Nobody can take Motherhood away from you and you are its rightful heirâtreat it like a gem on your crown.
I donât know what the feeling of being a parent is like, but I have my brave mother and my big sisterâtwo exemplary women whoâve stood their ground against everything that was thrown their way. It wonât take rocket science to figure out that you are the undisputed Queen of anything you want to rule.
So go ahead, celebrate this motherâs day like the queen you are and knock yourself out. After all, this is your day.
Happy Motherâs Day, Single Momma.
You are a legend in the making; give us a story weâll never forget.